I’m Randi, a native New-Yorker, Stay-at-Home-Mom, homeschool teacher, freelance writer, and the creator of Surviving Mom Blog (try saying that quickly three times).
I currently live in Atlanta with my husband, rambunctious 8-year old daughter, 2 cats, and a very hyper dog. Our house is anything but boring, and I’m just trying to stay sane amidst the endless chaos.
When I’m not writing, you can find me chasing after my energizer bunny daughter, reading anything psychological thriller, and sneaking morsels (okay, globs) of chocolate.
Find out more about me HERE
- How Do I Stop Being Codependent
- Tips and Strategies for Parenting a Special Needs Child
- How Do You Learn To Love Yourself
- How To Build Self-Confidence In Yourself
- Ways To Implement Healthy Boundaries For Your Mental Health
- Understanding Your Love Language
- How To Cope When You Are Living With An Addict
- What Is The Importance of Self-Care
- How To Cope With Anxiety
- How To Have A Long And Lasting Marriage
- How To Give A Voice To Childhood Emotional Abuse Survivors
- How To Survive Going No Contact With A Family Member
- What Are The Keys To Happiness
I think we can all agree that navigating the bumpy road of life is HARD.
However, I think that there are many lessons out there that can help us, if we are open to learning them. I have learned many such lessons along the way.
My aspiration is that my child will navigate life with courage, determination, and grace. Some life lessons she will have to learn herself, but my hope is that the lessons I have learned throughout my life will guide her along her journey.
I am sharing 15 of these lessons, which are important for adults as well as children. I hope they support you and/or your children along each of your journeys.
Gratitude jars. Gratitude journals. Stay positive. Stay strong. It could be worse. Focus on the good in your life. Positive vibes only. Choose happiness….
These are all things that we do and say to be mindful of the importance of positivity. We remind ourselves and others to see the glass as half full rather than half empty. Positivity is a good thing, but is there such a thing as too much positivity?
That is where toxic positivity comes in, and it is harmful to your mental and emotional health. The pandemic has brought about a world of uncertainty and fear. We have all had our lives disrupted, and many have lost loved ones or are facing economic hardships. Each of us at some point have read or been told something that minimized or invalidated our emotional pain or discomfort. We cannot force ourselves or others to be happy and positive.
IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY, AND WE NEED TO PUT AN END TO TOXIC POSITIVITY.
My daughter knows I write a blog. Before I started writing about her struggles with ADHD, I had a conversation with her. I wanted to make sure she was comfortable with me sharing personal details about her life.
Brielle watches me write often. About a month ago she asked if she could write a post. She wanted to write about how it feels to have ADHD. The following is written in her own words (with some spelling and grammatical assistance) on behalf of parents and children who live with ADHD. She also provided some strategies she uses to help her:
Hi. My name is Brielle. l am eight years old, and l am about to tell you how it feels to have ADHD…..
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“Our wedding was very symbolic of marriage. Whatever your dreams of marriage might be, life will inevitably get in the way. I learned that although our love story is beautiful, what makes our love memorable is that we navigate life’s roadblocks together. It still amazes me that somehow, against all odds, a guy I never would have met under any normal circumstances became the man I now call my husband. That’s the beauty of life. It may throw curveballs (as well as mono and rainstorms) at you, but sometimes it also throws you a home run.”
“My daughter was diagnosed by an Occupational Therapist with SPD, and two years later she was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), executive functioning issues, poor working memory, and auditory processing issues. I went from being in denial that there was anything wrong, to demanding an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) be made for my child. I learned some valuable lessons along the way, and my hope is that I can make the road less bumpy for others.”
“Codependency is a huge buzzword. Everywhere you turn there are people preaching about overcoming codependent relationships. I agree that codependency isn’t healthy; I also understand why it is so easy to fall into that cycle, and why it is so difficult to overcome. My value as a person was completely defined by the well-being of those I loved. I thought it was my role as a wife and mother to completely devote myself and my happiness to them.”
“Emotional and psychological abuse leave scars that only their victims can see. They are there nonetheless. I hope reading my story will encourage you to reach out and tell someone yours. With advocacy and awareness, we can give a voice to those invisible scars. We don’t get to rewrite our past, but we get to decide our present and future.”