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I’m Randi, a native New-Yorker, Stay-at-Home-Mom, homeschool teacher, freelance writer, and the creator of Surviving Mom Blog (try saying that quickly three times).

I currently live in Atlanta with my husband, rambunctious 8-year old daughter, 2 cats, and a very hyper dog. Our house is anything but boring, and I’m just trying to stay sane amidst the endless chaos.

When I’m not writing, you can find me chasing after my energizer bunny daughter, reading anything psychological thriller, and sneaking morsels (okay, globs) of chocolate.

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I grew up having the belief system that it was my job to make my mother happy. 

I listened to her marital and life problems, tried to cheer her up, and felt good about myself when I felt she needed me. It was engrained in me that it was my responsibility to take care of her.

As an adult, I believed it was my job to be responsible for my husband. His problems were my job to fix, and my happiness was dependent on my ability to “save” him.

Codependency is a vicious cycle. The good news is that we can break the cycle of codependency and learn a healthier way of having relationships.
 

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previous posts


What is a Highly Sensitive Person and 16 Self-Care Tips and Strategies

If I had a dime for every time I labeled myself or was described as “incredibly sensitive,” I’d be rich. In fact, I spent my entire life feeling like I was viewing the world through a very different lens than others. Now I know that there is a term to describe my sensitivity, known as a highly sensitive person (HSP).

Unsure of what that means? Look no further. This post delves into the characteristics of the highly sensitive person and specific forms of self-care for HSPs.

Learning about HSP has helped me gain a better understanding of myself and changed my life for the better. My deepest hope is that this post will do the same for you. <3

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My Favorite Memories with My Husband and Daughter

This past week was a very special week for me. My husband and I celebrated 12 years of marriage on August 2nd, and my daughter’s 9th (!) birthday was on August 3rd.

In honor of these events, I’d like to take a stroll down memory lane. I’m sharing a few of my favorite memories with my husband and with my daughter. Whether you laugh, smile, or even shed a tear, my hope is that you’ll think of your own favorite memories with loved ones as you read mine.

Understanding The 4 Fs of Fear and Stress: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn

Fear and stress are emotions that shape our perception of the world. Whether we grew up often feeling afraid or felt only the occasional nervousness, we can all vividly recount a time in our childhood where we were truly frightened. Throughout our childhood, circumstances that caused us to feel fear or stress resulted in responses to that exposure.

EACH OF US ENCOUNTERED SITUATIONS THAT IMPACTED OUR WAY OF REACTING.

We learned to protect ourselves through our responses to those traumas (big or small). There are 4 fear and stress-based responses, known as the 4 Fs of Fear and Stress. These responses shape your reactions in adulthood.

I’m sharing all there is to know about the 4 Fs of Fear and Stress. Knowledge is power. I hope this brings you more knowledge and understanding, as well as more self-compassion and self-love.

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MY LOVE STORY

relationships
my love story – how i met my husband and our dating journey

“Our wedding was very symbolic of marriage. Whatever your dreams of marriage might be, life will inevitably get in the way. I learned that although our love story is beautiful, what makes our love memorable is that we navigate life’s roadblocks together. It still amazes me that somehow, against all odds, a guy I never would have met under any normal circumstances became the man I now call my husband.   That’s the beauty of life. It may throw curveballs (as well as mono and rainstorms) at you, but sometimes it also throws you a home run.”

6 strategies and tips for parenting a special needs child

 parenting
6 strategies to parent my special needs child

“My daughter was diagnosed by an Occupational Therapist with SPD, and two years later she was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), executive functioning issues, poor working memory, and auditory processing issues. I went from being in denial that there was anything wrong, to demanding an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) be made for my child. I learned some valuable lessons along the way, and my hope is that I can make the road less bumpy for others.”

mental health/wellness
my story of how i broke the cycle of codependency

Codependency is a huge buzzword.  Everywhere you turn there are people preaching about overcoming codependent relationships. I agree that codependency isn’t healthy; I also understand why it is so easy to fall into that cycle, and why it is so difficult to overcome. My value as a person was completely defined by the well-being of those I loved.  I thought it was my role as a wife and mother to completely devote myself and my happiness to them.”

trauma/hardships
A CAUTIONARY TALE ABOUT SURVIVING NARCISSISTIC EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE

“Emotional and psychological abuse leave scars that only their victims can see. They are there nonetheless. I hope reading my story will encourage you to reach out and tell someone yours. With advocacy and awareness, we can give a voice to those invisible scars. We don’t get to rewrite our past, but we get to decide our present and future.”

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